Last year after reading, Year Of Yes, I was so inspired to say YES to more things. In particular the things, I would generally say NO to. When Christina invited me to her birthday trip in Cuba, I said YES, I’M GOING. COUNT ME IN! No second thought, now that I think about, I don’t even think I spoke with Stephen until I responded to the email( LOL, sorry baby).
For some reason, talking myself out of things is so easy. Safe to say, I think we ( mothers + wives ) do that. The feeling of guilt takes over us. Even though we know we deserve it, we talk ourselves out of it. Can I just say, it’s ridiculous and exhausting.
Super excited and ready to finally go on a girl trip, friends around me said, OMG such a fun trip for You and Stephen, you guys deserve it! Talk about a slap in the face, I confidently responded, ” Oh, Stephen’s not going, just me, taking a girls trip”. Some responded, oh, what are you going to do with the kids? my reply, Jesus is with them everyday of their life, I’m sure they would be just fine.
Can I say, I truly didn’t know how much I NEEDED this. I missed Stephen and of course the kids, but I truly needed this time. Not because of LIFE or the fact that I’ve been a mothering and being a wifey around the clock for the past 5 years but because in between all of that Simone was a little lost. I forgot what is felt like to BY MYSELF for 5 days. For FIVE WHOLE DAYS I was freeeeeeee!!! Jokingly, we were all relaxing in the Airbnb and I said, OMG you hear that? SILENCE. LOL
Cuba was so magical, I found myself just living in the moment.My friends would be shocked because I’m generally a grandma. Give me a comfy bed and I’ll be cuddled up with a good ole book. However, I decided to LIVE and be FREE. Thinking about my favorite moment, after Christina’s birthday dinner, they all decided to jump in the pool, fully dressed. FUN right? Well I was the first to decline, kept saying I can’t swim, which is true. Something in me said, OMG stop being boring and just jump in what’s the worse that can happen? you going to drown. LOL So I did it, it was fun but I was climbing up out that pool FAST!
I enjoyed being surrounded by nine other women, grown women at that. I say grown because usually with a trip, there is always some type of drama or something, but it was the complete opposite. It was amazing to vibe with them and get to know them. Truly a trip I would never forget.
Stephen and the kids loved on me so much when I returned. After sharing the trip details with Stephen, I thought to myself, I need to do this more often. Thankfully, he agreed! We ( mother and wives in particular) need to do this more often. I capitalize on us because we don’t have the luxury of just getting up, booking a trip and jetting off without thinking of someone else. But in all honesty, we deserve time like this. It’s healthy.
For anyone looking for details about Cuba, what to do, what to eat, that type of stuff. Christina is working on a post, on all the details. I’ll be sure to update the post, and post about it on Instagram.
So tell me, when was your last girls trip, or trip alone? If not, what’s stopping you from going?