I took this picture in the beginning of April, the same Day by Father in Law passed. We planned to announce the pregnancy that week, but decided to wait. Timing is everything, wanted to give our family time to grieve, especially Stephen. Giving him some space was and is the best option, not suffucating him with baby announcements and my over the top wishes. I’ve never lost a parent, so I have no idea what it feels like it. However, I witnessed first hand how close Stephen and his dad was. So I did what I felt was right.
Now you understand why this post is a tab bit late. Better late than never right? LOL Omg! I never thought the 1st Trimester would end.Only made it through the grace of God. Thankfully, I wasn’t sick or anything too severe but the exhaustion was REAL! I could not keep my eyes open to save my life. It was scary! I would be in mid conversation with someone and fall asleep. During the day, I slept from the time I dropped SJ off to school, almost until noon. I couldn’t help it.
I realized that I needed to do something, find some strength from somewhere.
After making some changes, here’s how I survived my 1st trimester.
- Changed my night-time routine. To be honest, this was the hardest change for me.usually I stay up until 1 or 2 am working, researching etc. However, I started to prepare dinner a little earlier than normal and even making the kids get involved with helping me cook dinner. Also, tried to get both of the in bed and asleep by 8: 30 the latest( still a struggle, Sparkle is a nigh owl). Setting a new night time for them meant I had a few mins to get SJ’s stuff ready for the morning, clean up the kitchen and any toys lingering around, shower and go to bed.
- Asking for help and having a support system. I probably should have put this first, this is a huge for me. After 2 kids you would think, asking for help comes naturally. NO WAY. But now, there is no shame in my game at all. NONE.
- Giving myself a moment and not apologizing for it. PERIOD. Locking the bathroom door, or running an errand ALONE.
- Keeping lavender and tea on HAND. The first few weeks, I kept experiencing the worse migraines. It was horrible, I remember laying in bed, in the dark, flipping the pillow back and forth to the cold side ( anyone else does this), praying they would go away. I ended up taking too much Tylenol. because I forgot I couldn’t pop pills like that anymore. Finally, it dawned on me to grab some lavender, so I stocked up on some essential oil and my favorite lavender scrub from Trader Joes. Also, became addicted to the Tumeric and Ginger tea from Trader Joes. Thank me later.
- Watching what I eat. # searchingformywaist was and still is very real. The search was aggressive and now that I’m pregnant, I still want to watch it, for health reasons. #searchingformywaist, was not just for me to look cute but to save my life. I already shared in this post, why, but now since I’m pregnant I really need to watch it. The first two weeks after I found out, I kept craving Chic Fil A, it was all good until I looked at my bank statement and realized I was experiencing a crazy reaction after eating it. My face would BLOW UP. I came crying to my mom, one evening showing her my face. Of course we ended up laughing about it, but it really was scary. Thank Goodness, this baby switched cravings, now it’s salads, fruits and veggies. I eat salads about twice a day, discovered this new dressing at Trader Joes and my god it’s delicious. #babystarlove and I can’t get enough of it!
- Pregnancy Fashion + Beauty Must Have’s. Leggings, oversized dresses, jumpsuits, trainers, and your favorite lipstick, keep them NEAR! Due to the exhaustion, I looked a MESS. Just messy, I wore a turban for the first 8 weeks. I just could not do my hair, no energy. My mom asked me one day, getting your hair done anytime soon? She was so sick of my turban. I was too. I started to pick myself up slowly because it was getting depressing, lol. After watching the minimalism documentary, I decided to create a pregnancy capsule. I’ll share more on that later.